A Guide to Overcoming Conflicts with Immigrant Parents: How to have Difficult Conversations and End Inter-Generational Conflicts Forever is a quick read. It’s also a motivational guide authored by Hodan Ibrahim released by Qurtuba Publishing House; a publishing company she founded with two of her Somalian-Canadian sisters.
Hodan Ibrahim is a writer, a motivational speaker, a blogger, an entrepreneur, and last but not least a personal development and business coach. Masha’Allah, this is a full plate and she is up to the challenge. She wants to help the ummah move forward, flourish, and to help people live a fulfilling and purposeful life. Things she has already started doing alhamdullilah.
A Guide to Overcoming Conflicts with Immigrant Parents: How to have Difficult Conversations and End Inter-Generational Conflicts Forever is educational and serves the purpose of the publishing house Hodan Ibrahim co-founded and named after the city of Cordoba (Qurtuba in Arabic) located in Andalusia, Spain. This historical city had blossomed in the Islamic era and became a pillar of knowledge in the 10th century. In the sister’s own words, this city of Cordoba aka Qurtuba was “Titled the most tolerant and cultivated society of its time, which allowed for the exchange of knowledge and religious diversity. It was the scholars, thinkers and creatives of this beautiful city that created a timeless representation of how Muslims can leave a significant and innovative impact in their communities. Qurtuba wishes to carry on this legacy and create knowledge-sharing platforms to support social growth and productivity in Muslim communities.”
To continue, I personally don’t think that her guide is an ultimate practical guide but I strongly believe that it is a compelling practical guide to those who need a life coach to push them in the desired directions they can’t seem to propel themselves in. Being a child of immigrant parents myself, I have found my voice and freedom by doing many of the things she mentioned in her book plus more to make my family see eye-to-eye with me. It’s still a work in progress for me because parents will always see us as children— their children. Hodan also touches on this reality and many other ones you will have to read to find out.
Dealing with immigrant parents is the main objective of this guide. It aims to help children of immigrants find their way when they are in a situation where their parents chose a career for them they are not satisfied with. Hodan uses a quote by William Hutchinson Murray to propel change the life of a person looking for guidance: “Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”
In my opinion, this quote won’t change everybody’s life, but it’s very inspirational and will make many bite! This sentence resonated with me because I already believed “Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it” but I had never put them altogether in such a beautiful sentence. I’m so bold that it scares me sometimes. And I’m told that the bold things I do are brilliant, influence many, and are ‘mystic.’ Double entendre implied here.
Above all, Hodan Ibrahim’s writing is very simple and not complex at all for the educational and motivational goals it extols. It is designed to connect with anybody (young or old folks) who has a basic reading and learning capability in English. I imagine many immigrants read and will read her practical guide so there is no need to use unnecessary, intimidating, and scary jargon to appeal to them. Hodan’s writing style perfectly fits that purpose, guiding and inspiring people to find their talent and passion.
Hodan’s titles and the rest of Qurtuba Publishing’s books are available at www.qurtubapublishing.com/
Papatia Feauxzar is a published author living in Dallas, Texas with her son and husband. She is addicted to love, romance, life, laughs, and always having a good halal time, her goal is to serve Allah first and foremost. Above all, she is annoyingly always in a good mood ;). Visit her at papatia.wordpress.com