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What Is The Point of Raising Children?

Hajar Masri ponders why she has brought children into this Dunya.

One year ago, Alhamdulillah, I was blessed with another baby girl, Bayyina Masri. I was so excited about the opportunity to yet again be blessed with another child to raise and love unconditionally. During the nine months of my pregnancy, so many hate crimes and attacks were happening all around the world. This saddened me and I began to wonder: ‘What’s the point of bringing another innocent soul into this crazy, corrupt world?’ The world where there is so much unease and the world that I, myself was afraid to live in. I often reiterate this hadith to myself whenever I hear of a calamity:

The Prophet Muhammed (SAW) once said: “Hayl Dunya melgoona” Meaning: This world is cursed. Except for the remembrance of Allah SWT, and that which resembles it; the scholars or the one who is learned. (Tirmidhi)

 

 

 

I began to think of the reality of this hadith. Thinking of all the corruption, fitnah, moral declination in society, wars, battles, natural disasters and just plain disasters happening all around the world, the reality of this Dunya became clear as crystal, this world really is cursed. I began to think, there’s got to be some good in this Dunya that is worthy living and worthy of being in it, it can’t all be bad.

“And certainly, We will shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Saabiroon (the patient). (Surah Al Baqarah : 155)

 

 

 

“Truly, the muttaqun (the pious and righteous persons) will be amidst Gardens and water-springs (Jannah). (It will be said to them): ‘Enter therein (Jannah), in peace and security.’ And We shall remove from their breasts any deep feeling of bitterness (that they may have). (So they will be like) brothers facing each other on thrones. No sense of fatigue shall touch them, nor shall they (ever) be asked to leave it.” (Surah Al Hijr :45)

 

 

 

For me, the good I see in the world, are the opportunities that, with Allah’s Mercy, could possibly lead me to Jannah. I value the opportunities this life has to offer, not the opportunities that are worldly, but the opportunities that I would use in this world and make the best of it while striving to achieve Jannah. I value my kids, my family, and my friends. I value our teachers, our scholars and our leaders that teach us about our religion and to always be mindful of our afterlife.

 

 

 

I value the opportunity of being a Muslim woman who has been given the gift of motherhood where I get the chance to, inshaAllah, to be a good enough role model that my kids can learn from and that I could raise them to be sadaqah jariyah for me and my husband.

 

 

 

The Prophet Muhammad PBUH said: “Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother.” (Ahmad, Nasai)

 

 

 

The Prophet Muhammed (SAW) said: “When a man dies, his acts come to an end, but three, recurring charity or knowledge (by which people) benefit, or a pious son, who prays for him (for the deceased). (Muslim)

 

 

 

The Prophet Muhammed (SAW) said: “Whoever has three girls and is patient with them and clothes them from what he has, they will veil him from the fire (of Hell).” (Muslim)

 

 

 

I aspire to be a mother that could inspire my children to do good and to be good people. To be a good enough Muslim that Allah (SWT) would be nothing but proud of. To raise Muslims who won’t be afraid to wear hijab, or pray in public at a park, or stand up against what is wrong. To be honored and proud of their Muslim identity, and to hold on firm to that identity. To live life as a Muslim who is empowered and inspired by their religion and always, when making decisions, to put their reliance in Allah SWT and always choose deen over Dunya in all matters of their lives. If I can do anything for my kids, or give my kids anything of value in this world, this would be it, before anything else. This in and of itself is enough of an opportunity to gain Allah’s pleasure and His Jannah.

 

 

 

I want the best for my children. In fact, I want the ultimate best for them. I want what is best for them in this life with one goal in mind, and that is to utilize the best opportunities this life has to offer to achieve ultimate success, Jannah. A road in this life that will lead them to eternal bliss and happiness, this is when I believe I have achieved the ultimate best for my children.

 

 

 

Abdullah bin Umar reported: The Prophet Muhammed (SAW) said: “Everyone of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

 

 

 

I cannot imagine standing before Allah (SWT) and having to answer to him what I did to keep my children away from hell fire but rather what I did not do to allow my children entrance to his paradise. I mean, would I voluntarily throw my children into a fireplace with blazing fire?! Of course not, if I do not set out a righteous lifestyle for my children, how will they ever know to do their own? At this point, I tell myself, I have no choice. I tell myself I will do my best, make my intention, make sincere and continuous dua, and at that point, put my faith in Allah (SWT), as He will guide whom He wills. But, not trying, not giving all my blood, sweat, and tears to give my children the best in this life to achieve Jannah, is definitely not an option for me. It is onto me to raise them to be not only God-fearing but also practicing Muslims, and if I don’t, if I just teach them to strive to achieve success in just this Dunya and not their akhirah, then it could be my fault that they end up in a blazing fire, athudubillah.

 

 

 

“The two rakaat (of sunnah before) Fajr are better than the world and all it contains.” (Muslim)

 

 

 

I don’t to teach them to focus more on this Dunya when we’ve been told time and time again, this world is nothing in comparison to Jannah. I cannot imagine myself setting up my kids future towards failure. A future of eternal bliss and paradise, for a life of temporary satisfaction, a life that is so worthless that a 5-minute salah of two rak’at is more worthy of every single thing in this world. Those two rak’at are better than any mansion, any car, any vacation or any bank account that we would spend years and years striving for.

 

 

 

I value the blessings of time. Time in this Dunya that is given to me that could be used doing anything that will allow me to grow closer to my Lord and lead me to His Jannah. Limited time that is unknown.

 

 

 

“There are two blessings which many people waste: health and free time.” (Bukhari)

 

 

 

I value the most perfect and complete book that was given to us mankind as guidance. The book that teaches me who I should be and has an answer to everything I will ever need to know about in this world and the encounter ships and blessing of it, and how to achieve Jannah. The manual of this life, Al Qur’an Al Karim.

 

 

 

“A guidance for mankind…and the distinction (between right and wrong)…” (Al-Baqarah :185)

 

 

 

These are the good things I see in this world, these are the reasons why I value any part of this life and the opportunity to have been blessed to bring another soul into this world. These opportunities are limited because the time we have here to take advantage of these opportunities, is a limited amount of time to achieve the one most valuable thing ever: Jannah.

 

 

 

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Hajar Masri is a born and raised Muslimah from Calgary AB, Canada. She is a wife, mother of three girls, Muslim events planner and a student of knowledge. She is a writer of her own thoughts and how she lives this thing called life. With Quran and Sunnah, Hajar strives to “Live in this world as a stranger”. -Muhammad (SAW) Read more of her writing at https://hajarmasri.wordpress.com/